Tuesday, July 28, 2009

Meet Trish!

Yay! Trish was so kind to sent in her AMAZING wedding pictures and story! And what a deal she got on her dress. So without further ado...I am soo excited to have the privilege of sharing her story with you!
Photos by Doug Gravino Photography/Doug Gravino Atlanta, GA

I love your new blog, the Plus Sized bride! I wish there had been something around like this when I was getting married.
I was married 8-20-2004. I'm attaching some photos and will paste my story below. DH and I were on an extreme budget--$4000 for the wedding (not including rings). I HAD to find a cheap dress, and DH freaked out that it was the price it was...I wound up buying my jewelry and shoes out of my pocket money and not the wedding budget. I spent $250 on the dress, $100 on alterations, $125 on the tiara and veil, and about $75 on jewelry and shoes. Anyway, here's my story that you can publish if you'd like......
As a size 14, I was a plus sized bride. We wanted to keep things very simple. We were also on a very limited budget because we paid for everything ourselves, so I knew that an expensive dress was out of the question. We had about 80 close friends and family at the ceremony at a small non-denominational church. We had a "finger food/appetizer" mid-afternoon reception in the gorgeous reception hall at the church.
Living in a large metro area, I had a good selection of plus sized gowns to choose from. After looking at some local shops and finding nothing under $700-800, I scheduled an appointment at David's Bridal. Although everyone tried to talk me into going out to the "Mega-Mart of Wedding Dresses," the prices were right.
Before my appointment, my MOH and I grabbed about a dozen dresses for me to try on. I cannot say much about my consultant because she was working with 3 brides at once. I think she checked in on me and commented on a few dresses. My MOH and I knew what looked good on me and what did not. After trying them all on, I bought the first dress. Although it was not my dream dress (that was $1500 at another shop), it was similar to my dream dress, I really liked it, and it looked great on me. Plus, it was only $250 on sale and needed very little alteration. In the interest of simplicity and not running around the 14 county metro Atlanta area anymore, the inexpensive dress price left money in the budget to get my veil and tiara at David's. They give you a discount on accessories when you buy them at the same time as the dress. Since all I needed was to have the dress hemmed and I was getting married in less than 6 weeks, I had it altered there as well for under $100. To save more money, I bought my earrings and necklace off the clearance sale at Macy's. I bought my shoes at a DSW and chose shoes that I could wear after the wedding.

Thursday, July 23, 2009

I'll start with me....

Photos by J Brent Winn Photography Arlington Texas

I saw my dress months ago (we were talking marriage and he knew I was going to look at dresses) at a bridal show in Houston. I fell in love with it on the spot even though the closest I could get to trying it on was to have the shop owner hold it up to me as we stood in front of a mirror.
I won't tell you how big a fool I made of myself but suffice it to say that my face was red and blotchy, (I don't have the gene that allows you to cry pretty) people were pointing and staring, and my oldest and dearest friend in the world lead me away to a quiet corner and made me sit down and eat something while she fanned my face. I guess that is one way to know you found the right dress.
Fast forward a few months and NOW I'm officially engaged and can buy my dress. Since I knew exactly what I wanted I thought this part would be a cinch. NOPE!
I found a store in Snootyville DFW that actually carried the dress and had one in stock that I could try on. Now I must confess. I'm a plus size gal (size 16) so I know that to try on the dress (size 10) will include lots of clips and a fake back tucked in the back so I don't flash folks. I'm fine with that. I just wanted my Sister and The Niece to see the dress before I gave the store my hard earned cash.
The dress shop owner, hereafter known as Snarky Ol' Bitty, was less than excited to help us. We were early for our appointment, she was late and not terribly concerned about it. She did everything in her power to make me feel like a fat loser and when SHE asked me about the price on the dress (when I called to make the appointment I asked what the price was and told her what the one in Houston was priced at. She assured me it was very close to that price. When we got to the shop it was easily $100 higher) I said well, since you mentioned it...it IS a lot higher than you lead me to believe it would be. Then I asked if there was a discount for paying cash because I had $900 in crisp new bills in my wallet and I've always heard it NEVER HURTS TO ASK for a discount when you are paying cash!!!
Apparently Snarky Ol' Bitty has never had someone want to pay cash or ask if there were any discounts. She informed me that she doesn't take cash. (I'm thinking to myself WHO TURNS DOWN CASH!?!?!?) THEN said, well OBVIOUSLY you don't want to do business with MY shop!!! She snatched the dress up and high-tailed it out of the dressing room before my sister or I could bat an eye.
So there we stood. My Sister, The Niece and me (in my underwear still) with our jaws on the floor. The Niece in her wisest 10 year old voice piped up..."well she was kind of rude!" We busted out laughing gathered our stuff up and hit the door. I wasn't about to give my business to someone that was going to treat me like that. Even if they WERE the only store that I had found in my area that carried the dress.
A couple of weeks later I found an AMAZING little gem of a shop in Arlington called Lang's http://www.langsbridal.com/ that carried my dress as well. This time I didn't have ANY problems ordering my dress. Theresa was extremely helpful. She has a huge selection of wedding and bridesmaid dresses. She also carries flower girl dresses that won't break the bank and look as nice as the expensive ones do. YIPPEE!!!!!! FINALLY a shop that made me feel as special as a BRIDE is supposed to feel!!!!
My best friend Ms. A always tells me that if I find myself running into roadblocks then that isn't the path I'm supposed to be on. She is sooo right!!!

Thursday, July 9, 2009

A Fine Place To Start....

I created this blog because one of the MOST disappointing things I experienced as I was planning my wedding was the lack of photos I could find of Plus Size Brides.
I want to change that! Let’s make this a place where we can celebrate being a size 14, 16, 18, 20……24….you get the idea.

How do you figure out what is going to look good when the dresses you can try on are mostly size 10 and made for people that don’t have hips? What are some poses that I could have had my photographer take that would have been more flattering? How big does my bouquet need to be so it looks proportional? Yeah, I know…that last one was probably just me being weird.

You can participate by emailing 3 or 4 pictures (manageable sizes please!) that showcase your wedding to plussizebride@gmail.com . You MUST give credit to the photographer, even if it is Great Aunt Sue. Tell me a little something about yourself, your wedding, some of the ups and downs you experienced dress shopping. You can name names at the good shops but let’s not bash the less than gracious folks out there. I figure if there are enough places that we can share with everyone that has helpful staff the readers will get the hint and go there.

I would like to hear from all of you…the ones thinking about getting married sometime in the future, currently planning a wedding and the ones that have been married 20+ years.